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About this Masterclass
I designed this masterclass as a place for you to come to anytime you experience something that dysregulates your nervous system… Those everyday moments when your body reacts before your mind can lead.
For example, here are some common stressors that throw people into dysregulation:
Heated arguments
Feeling overwhelmed
Receiving harsh criticism
Sitting in heavy, unexpected traffic
Experiencing negative or limiting thoughts
When one of these stressors begins to bubble-up inside your brain and body, it can have the power to throw off your entire day…
Instead of letting that happen, this program will give you quick actions you can take to not just regulate, but come back better than before.
Each lesson in this masterclass will cover one common nervous system disruptor, and how to tackle it quickly.
What do I mean by “antifragile nervous system”?
Antifragility is a term coined by Nassim Nicholas Taleb, the author of one of my favorite books, Antifragile.
If being resilient is about bouncing back, being antifragile is about bouncing back even better than before…
For example: think about the Hydra from Greek mythology. If you cut off a Hydra’s head, two more grow in its place. Cut those, and even more grow. The more damage it takes, the stronger it gets.
That’s what being antifragile is about.
And here’s how it applies to your nervous system:
The goal is to become a person who recovers, responds, and grows stronger from the daily stressors that we all experience…
That’s why I call it The Antifragile Nervous System.
FORMAT
Media: 🎥 Video, 📝 Written
Total length: 60 min.
Number of lessons: 10
Recommendation: Watch in full once, then return to individual lessons whenever a specific challenge shows up.
CONTENTS
How to regulate your nervous system…
When you’re receiving negative feedback or criticism
When you feel unheard, dismissed, or misunderstood
When you’re overwhelmed, have too much to do, and don’t know where to start
When you’re experiencing digital overload
When you’re stressed and in a rush or running late
When you’re experiencing sensory overwhelm
When you experience that afternoon crash
When you receive an upsetting text, email, or notification
When you’re about to be judged, watched, or evaluated (regulation techniques for job interviews, presentations, big speeches, etc.)
When you can’t relax and “turn off” after a stressful day of work
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1
How to regulate your nervous system when you’re receiving negative feedback or criticism
Criticism can feel like danger because your nervous system may interpret it as rejection, humiliation, or a threat to your identity.
That’s why even useful feedback can sting.
Your body instinctively wants to defend, explain, attack, collapse, or prove the other person wrong.
Even if the feedback is only about one specific thing—like a project for work or a decision you made—your nervous system can turn it into something much bigger:
The other person shares feedback about your project, and you digest it as,
“What if I’m not good enough?”
Here’s what to do to regulate your nervous system:
Do not respond immediately.
Take one slow breath and silently remind yourself that, “This is information, it’s not my identity.”
Then ask yourself:
“What part of this is useful?”
“What part of this is noise?”
“What can I learn without attacking myself?”
If you need time to regulate, say, “Let me think about that.” That one sentence gives your nervous system room to settle before your ego takes over.
Example 1:
Your boss criticizes your work. Your boss says, “This isn’t as strong as I expected.” Your stomach drops and you immediately think, “He/she thinks I’m incompetent.”
Regulate first: Silently remind yourself that, “This is information. This is not my identity.”
Then ask: “What specifically would make it stronger?”
Example 2:
Someone criticizes your parenting. A family member says, “You’re too soft on your kids.” You feel judged and defensive.
Regulate first: Pause before responding. Say to yourself: “They’re just commenting on one thing they observed. This doesn’t define me as a parent.”
Then respond with one of the following:
“I hear you. I’ll think about that.”
Or, if you sense that condescending jackass energy some people walk around with, simply say: “I’m not looking for parenting advice right now.”
Feedback is data, it doesn’t define you.
Remind yourself of that on a regular basis.